May 30, 2009

I May Be Hooked

A short while ago, my folks were talking about blogging with some other visitors at my home. I didn't know what a blog was. They tried to explain, but I still didn't get it. I am not Internet savvy. I can just do what I need to do. I don't read the newspaper, with the exception of the editorials. And we don't have television. My children are home schooled, as are most of their friends. So, I live in a type of bubble when it comes to current fads and new trends.

Some time later, a sweet friend of mine, sent me the link to Angie Smith's blog, Bring the Rain. Because, she knew it would be of interest to me. In case no one guessed, I am really busy most of the time, and don't really take time out for just sitting around doing anything. So, even though, I really wanted to check it out, because Karen had sent it, I didn't get to it for quite some time.

One very cold and rainy Sunday last fall, I was recovering from a migraine. I grabbed my computer to return some email and saw the link from Karen again. I clicked on it and the next 4 hours were lost to me. I laughed, cried, prayed and cried some more. I read every post for over a year's worth of entries. Karen was right. The story of the Smith's family faith and comfort in the Lord, despite almost unbearable circumstances, was one I was thankful to know.

I still didn't understand blogging... or the point of it... or how anyone would have time to do it...but I needed to know the rest of the story. And so the next day, I went back to her page. And the next. Before I knew it her page became one of those little tabs on Internet Explorer.

I didn't mention it to my family. I had better things to do, than sit around reading about the life of someone I DON'T EVEN KNOW on the Internet. I thought it was quite silly myself and didn't want my family to think I was wasting my time.

A few days later my hubby asked me to go to dinner with him. Almost as soon as we had ordered, he asked me what it was I had been reading the other day, meaning Sunday. In a restaurant, late at night, through tears shed for a child I never knew, I told my beloved the story of Audrey Caroline. I was not prepared for his emotional reaction. As the father of 7 children, who we were told could never be, the frailty of it all touched him, too.

And then he began to reminisce about the little niece who was born far too early and far too sick to live. How he had held her in his arms after there was no life left in her. As a young college student, with no children of his own, a stranger to God...it had little impact on him. But now, at this place in his life, the story of Angie and Todd's little girl opened his heart again and allowed him to mourn as he should have long ago.

After that, the Smith's became a regular topic at our dinner table. And then one day, Angie mentioned a friend of hers. And I just had to check out her blog. And one thing led to another and another. Until, I had come to look forward to the stories of encouragement and craziness of other homemakers laboring daily to follow the Lord and raise their families in truth.

And then the idea came to me. My daughters started writing a family news letter about 5 or 6 years ago. It was quite nice and they kept it up for a long time. It was a great home school project and really kept the family in touch, even though we were spread out all over the place. The thought formed itself over a few days until it seemed perfect. I could start my own blog.

It would be like the girls newsletter, only online, so there would be no printing issues. No need to mail. And it would always be current since I could write and publish instantly. My sister overseas and friends around the country could read it and it would be like they were here with us. I would finally be able to keep up with everyone as I would like.

I had always kept a journal until the most recent years when I was just too tired to write at night...the only time I have to write. This would be a way to write that book my hubby is always asking me to put on paper. Wow! Writing a blog suddenly seemed like such an efficient thing, there was no way to justify NOT doing it.

Oh, but when did I have the time. And then one day it happened...a long chain of really crazy events in the day of a home school mom of 7 during flu season. As we were sitting at the table discussing the events of the day...my daughters compared me to our bird. (Read this if you want to know what that means.) And I could not resist any longer. While the kids were otherwise occupied with videos and naps, I lifted my sick (really, I had the flu) and weary head and typed my first blog.

I don't know if anyone other than my daughters read it...but what fun it was to be writing again. Anyway, as more people read and encouraged me with their comments, I found that I began building a network of other SAHM out there who were just like me. How encouraging it is to know I am not the only one...LOL. Plus, I am having a great time keeping up with my friends and relations around the world.

I have even been able to reconnect with some old friends that time and distance had kept from me for many years. My blog has introduced me to some neat ladies, whom I feel I have known for a long time...even though, I have never met them face to face. It is nice to be able to read about someone and get to know them...find out their likes and dislikes...or even if we have things in common...before you have to commit to being friends.

It is nice to be able to be friends on my own time, too. I have so many dear friends...that I never have time to be with. If the time is good for me...it isn't for them. But blog world friends...well, if I have a free minute at nap time and my RLF are working or running kids from here to there...I can sign in and visit for a while. If one of the kids has a catastrophe...well, no big deal. No one to insult if I shut down.

When my hubby is out of town and I can't sleep...all my (RLF) are sound asleep. But at 3 am I can sign in and chat with BWF (Blog world friends.) How convenient is that? I don't need to try to make plans or schedule...only to cancel or reschedule or get rained out. We can visit in our jammies with or without makeup. No one cares.

That last few months have been crazy for me. Many reasons why...I feel like I have neglected my friends and relations in these busy times. You know what, though? Not so with my BWF. And in the meantime, I am still able to make contact with all my family who are scattered about.

Side note: To those family, whom I am talking about...and you know who you are...don't forget to leave me a comment so I know you stopped by. Even though, you are reading my goings on...I don't hear from you if you don't let me know you paid me a visit.

Something else happened, too. I found when I needed prayer...instantly there were other ladies who understood and were praying. That is a real blessing for someone who is sequestered away with children for the majority of the last 17 years.

And I found, I could reach out and pray for others. What a blessing to feel useful, again...other than wiping noses and cleaning dishes.

And every word I type, is a word my husband doesn't have to hear. I think he must be grateful about that...not that he said it...but I am Italian...and a woman...I have A LOT of words...and no one but him to say them too! I am sure his ears must get exhausted...especially on the days following his travel.

Speaking of travel...blogging makes his travel easier to accept. Not that I will ever like it...but those long nights alone can now be spent writing our story. Something that is very important to me. And with the responsibility of a blog...well, it makes me make time to do it. And the thing about writing your families story...doesn't it make you appreciate them a lot more?

And last but not least... I love the fact that I have been able to reach out to others, pray for them, encourage them...share the love that Jesus gave to me... with perfect strangers...no strings attached.

So many words to say....I think I am hooked. And I can verify this because the other day one of my daughter's gave me this comic strip...and I could relate.



10 comments :

  1. Oh that is funny...the cartoon. So true. That sounds like me. I loved this post and how you got into blogging. I was scared of it at first, but it has grown into something really great & I cherish all my bloggy friends.

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  2. Glad to be a BWF!!
    Funny cartoon! :)

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  3. Hi,

    I just stopped by on my way over from "Five Moms and a Blog". We have a lot in common... lots of kids, homeschoolers, Christian women, fairly recently discovered blogging, amazing husbands and I could go on.

    I read this post and decided to "follow" (I don't like that word, how about you?).

    Blogging is wonderful. I definitely agree. I just need to find a balance. Sometimes I do it when I should be working with one of the kids. Argh!! But it's therapeutic on so many levels.

    Blessings to you! I look forward to reading more. :-)

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  4. I, too, fell in love with Angie's blog before starting my own. I can totally relate to much of what you have written here. It is so nice to have friends 24/7. :)

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  5. I still remember someone's surprise when they mentioned how much they loved blogging and I said "What is blogging?"

    Somehow, while googling something one night, I was led to a frugal blog. I enjoyed that, and actually read a couple of blogs before I eventually started one myself. I never thought I'd be blogging, lol!

    I was (am) enjoying it too, but didn't tell people right away either (except my hubby, of course).

    I just wasn't sure how long I was going to do it so didn't mention it. Now I actually have three of my friends who are blogging too!

    It's a fun outlet, you meet some awesome people, and it's a great way to encourage one another in homeschooling, parenting, etc., and in the Lord!

    Loved your comment on my DMV post! It's just funny that they never seem to ask us to update our weight again!!! No matter how many kids later, like you said, lol!

    ~ Nan

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  6. Your daughter is a smart one! I think we should all create that "Final Post" in our own words and then just leave a "Fill in the blanks" kind of thing for the details.

    Aren't we morbid today? ha ha ha

    Eh, it was just something to kinda laugh about. But it does make ya think, huh?

    ~Erica

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  7. I need that cartoon! Great one! You know you're a real blogger when you turn to your dh and say, "You better what it, mister. You make it to the blog with that kind of talk!" Then you both pause and bust out laughing. I also saw a kids' shirt that said, "My moms blogging about this." Hil.ar.i.ous.

    Know what, Angie's blog is one that really got me to serious blogging too. Just spoke to my heart.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog. I'm so very sorry about your birth mother. That sounds very difficult. Sigh. Sometimes familial relationships are so trying. I hope it's not the same with my children and their siblings and parents ;-) down the road. I'm seeking God's blessing on that.

    Have a great day!

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  8. Cute, cute cartoon! I so agree with what you shared about blogging being so great to connect with others. Somehow I found it was so much easier to regularly see and visit with "real life" friends when I had 2 kids but now with 3 kids some times it just so hard. My mom friends that have a kid the same age as my 6 year old can spend an hour visiting during their little league game, but I can only exchange hello and then I'm off chasing my toddler! So grateful to be sharing the Shred journey with you!!!

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  9. So interesting to hear why people started blogging! When I first heard about it I thought it was a personal journal that the world could read. How weird is that? I thought. I never thought I would have one myself! And if we hadn't moved, I still probably wouldn't have one. Just look at all the fun I would have missed out on!

    Bring the Rain was one of the first blogs I started reading, also, and it blew me away. It was a good reality check for me. I went back and read from the beginning too!

    I read on a blog somewhere that you can have your blog printed off and bound as a book. I am hoping to do that with mine at the end of the year for a keepsake that the kids can look at. They love to see all the pictures of themselves!

    Thanks for your comments about our move. They were encouraging to me! I really enjoy your blog!

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  10. Hey Chili. Hope you're having a gr8 weekend. I FINALLY made it here to read your bloggy story. At first, you think that blogging is a complete waist of time. And then, you that idea goes out the window when you get to share your life story with those you love and those who eventually become your friends. That why I like to call my followers my Penless Pen Pals, cause that's what y'all are. Just like when you were in school and the teacher would give you a pen pal from far far away (only now-a-days, pen pals don't need a pencil or a pen to write to you.) Isn't it amazing how you can become such friends with people you've never met face to face?!! I Loved your bloggy story. Blogging is nothing to be ashamed of. I see as a blessing in disguise. :O)

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