September 19, 2010

My Sister Abbey: A guest post by Brianna Wachter

A while ago, on my blog I wrote a tribute to the little girl we took in for a year.  While her mother changed her mind about giving her up before the adoption process was finished, in our hearts she will always be a member of our family. 


As of today:

To be quite frank, I do not know where Abby is today. After her mother took her we only received news of her once. I am at a complete loss as to when that was, who it was from, and what exactly the news was. Being in the situation she was in, and according to statistics, it does not seem very encouraging. But you know what?

My God is over and beyond statistics.

In fact He is over and beyond time and space. And because of that, there is always hope.

A time to let go:

For every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace." Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8

For everything a time. Even a time to let go.

During the time we were not in any position to start a legal battle for Abby. We were in the midst of another legal battle and while I know God would have provided the funds, quite frankly we were broke. And now that I look back, I am positive that was not God's plan. And as I mentioned in my other post, by letting go of what we thought was His will and surrendering to His true will, He was able to bless us with so much more.

Together for good:

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

What good can come out of this? A child who was obviously abused gets a time in a loving home and while in the adoption process her mother {who only cares about her daughter because of the money she gets} takes the child.

Not good, right?

But it is.

Don't start judging me. I am not saying that I do not wish things had not worked out this way. I am not saying that I do not weep just thinking where Abby most likely is today. I am saying that God is bigger and greater. He is in control and He did make it work for good.

For me, it has prepared me for the hard time I will have to face. I see the way my parents handled this. I see the way they leaned on Christ and came through so much stronger and I have an example to go by. I see the work of God and my faith is multiplied. And I pray that by sharing this with you, your faith is multiplied as well.

The hope in it all:

My hope. When I think of Abby, my hope is that somewhere, somehow, someone took the time to share with her the love of God. My hope. That God has reached into a dark situation and poured his love out on Abby and her mother. My hope. That I will someday see Abby. If not here, right after I greet my Savior.

The Epilogue:

Because of Abby, God has given me a love for all young ladies. It is my prayer that wherever and whatever situation they are in, someone will show them the love of God. Will share His salvation with them.

The start? It all starts at home base. By myself sharing the love of God.

And if ever I have a little girl, I hope to name her Abigail.

____________about. me.____________________________________

Hey! My name is Brianna Wachter [more commonly know as Näna]. I love beauty. And every time I find it am once again am filled with awe for the amazing Creator. But I'm also a very techy girl and in my insistence on facts and figures often miss out on the greatest beauties in life.  Live life! It's amazing what you will find when you do. My personal blog is private but to visit my design blog click here. Or drop me an email if you are interested in an invitation to my personal blog, By The Way.  ( I'd love to hear from you.


  1. What a loving tribute to a little girl who briefly touched your lives and for whom, quite possibly, you all gave the only example of family unity she'll have seen. It's there, in her, reminding her, no matter how her life might be right now, of how it can be and that is a blessing in and of itself.

    Great post and pleasure to meet you.

  2. I could not have said it better than Erin did. But I will add this: I love the name Abigail! Always have, always will. And, strangely enough, I have always thought that (if it is His will) I will have a little girl whom I can name Abigail.

    Elizabeth Rose

  3. Aww, what a great post, Nana! So awesome that you got to post on your Mom's blog. I think that would be really fun. :)

    Blessings, girly!

  4. Such wisdom from such a young girl! Beautiful post. We are currently in the process to adopt a child, but we have prayed about possibly fostering kids someday. There is just such a tremendous need for Christian families to do that. But, I've been scared of what the stress and trauma of all the issues related to fostering would do to my children. Your post encouraged me that God could use such an experience, although hard, to grow my children and teach them more about Him!