Otherwise, his actual birthday wasn't all that happy. He was still suffering from a miserable cold. Some of the meetings that day were helpful and informative. But there was also not so good news and a meeting with the occupational therapist which was possibly the most dreadful 90 minutes of my life. We did have our adopted Auntie in to celebrate their dual birthdays over dinner and cupcakes that evening but as we predicted Addison was so exhausted he just wanted to go to bed.
The first week of May we were again in Connecticut for the surgery Addison was supposed to have in March but which was cancelled because of the abscess in his mouth. After watching the abscess reform for the few weeks prior no one was quite sure what was going to happen once we got to Yale. However, regardless of whether he could operate or not, the surgeon wanted to put Addison under anesthesia in order to really get a good look at what was happening under his tongue. When we got to his office the day before surgery and he was able to see and feel for himself he realized it was some kind of hard mass about the size of a marble. He was unsure if it was caused by the abscess, the cause of the abscess or something else entirely. He thought once he got into the mouth he could figure out what it was and remove it, if possible.
The second item on the table for this trip were the ears. Addison's ENT in DC wanted to have tubes back in his ears ASAP. Dr. S and Dr. K agreed it would be best to do both at the same time so Addison would not need to go under anesthesia twice. This plan made us very happy. Since Dr. K is the only one who can do the mouth procedure Dr. S suggested we wait until we went to Connecticut for the ears. Knowing the smallness of Addison's ears and knowing that Dr. S was able to get the tubes in once we were a little nervous about letting someone else do the surgery. However, we trust Dr. S very much so we took him at his recommendation and headed north.
When we left no one would be sure if he could have the mouth surgery until he was under anesthesia at which time he would have the ear surgery. The irony being we could get there and not have the mouth surgery but only have the ear surgery. Which we could, and would prefer, to have done in DC. But that's Addison for you. And as it turns out, in pre-op Dr. K said he wasn't sure he would be able to get tubes in Addison's tiny ears. They are just that itty bitty. He said he would not make a decision until he was under anesthesia and could look under the microscope. At that point it looked something like this. We took two days off work, paid traveling and hotel expenses, left our family and were putting Addison under anesthesia for two procedures neither of which might happen only to travel back to D.C. and put him under anesthesia again to have his ear surgery.
Thankfully, Dr. K was able to get tubes in both ears. He said both ears were pretty bad. The small ear that had lost the tube, was filled with fluid and the other ear with the standard tube was completely closed off by the gluey stuff that develops from fluid sitting in the canal for an extended time. The good news is, the surgeon was able to drain and clear both ears. You may remember Addison had to have a special small titanium tube put in his left ear in January of 2014. We had done some talking about tiny ears the day before and Dr. K had said with his lack of growth the last year it is possible he has lost an entire year of opportunity for growth in his ears. The bad part of this being, pretty much by age 5 the majority of the ear growing business is done and what you have hearing wise is the best you can hope for. When he got in there the doctor was able to get standard tubes in both ears which means even though he hasn't grown in the last year his ears have grown thereby improving his hearing future.
On the mouth front, once he was under anesthesia Dr. K realized he could not identify the mass. He knew it was not an infection nor was it scar tissue. He removed a large bit but could not remove all of it because of the location. He decided to send it to pathology to learn more.
This morning I spoke with Addison's surgeon. He said the pathologist had called him because, and only Addison could swing this, they could not identify the tissue they removed from under his tongue. The best they could do was rule out all types of cancer and tumors. They had to give it some name so they decided to call it chronic inflammation. Addison has had such incredible improvement since it was removed, and because we know it isn't anything life threatening, we are comfortable with this outcome for now. Go figure. Only Addison.
One of the great outcomes of his improved swallowing is he is not completely exhausted and in need of a two hour nap after each feeding. Instead, with the decreased amount of feeding time, the increased energy as he gets more nutrition and not using all his strength to eat, he has lots of energy for playing and exploring. We are seeing him learn so many new things and he is playing and having fun. He had a great time at his birthday party on Sunday and was awake for 6 hours visiting with his guests and playing after they left. This is unprecedented. Monday and Tuesday he spent hours playing in the baby pool. Tuesday night, while we were working in the garden, he sat on a blanket nearby and played and babbled and made airplane noises while flying his pinwheel around. It was such a delight to see him doing the same things our other babies did. Granted, the other kids were about one year old at the time but this is so much an improvement compared to even just a few weeks ago. We are praising God and so thankful for His goodness toward us.
Also, in May, we had to write Addison's new IFSP for his therapy team. I hate these meetings. We have to decide what our boy will be doing in 6 months and a year and how we will get him there. My frustration stems for one thing from the fact that there is no way to know what is a reasonable expectation for Addison. He meets none of the criteria for a typical child nor a child with Down Syndrome. The experts can't make a prediction so it seems absurd they expect us to do so. The other side is no matter what goals we set for Addison something unexpected happens to get in the way so we never actually reach any of those goals. For example, at 12 months old, since he was on target with his peers, it seemed perfectly reasonable to assume he could be eating solid foods by 24 months. Seizures, prednisone, croup, 4 trips to Yale, 3 Feeding specialists, and 2 mouth surgeries later, we are measuring his eating progress by bites. Who could have predicted any of that and what could we have done to affect the outcome? I know the paper work is all necessary to their funding. But, ugg, I find these meetings completely defeating. After our IFSP meeting, Allen and I decided to throw out the last year and just pick up where we were at his first birthday.
Wednesday morning Addison weighed in at 18 pounds 11.8 ounces on our home scale. At his 2 year check up later that day his official weight was 19 pounds. The pediatrician's scale is a little more generous than ours, but either way, he is going so far in the right direction. He has gained 11 ounces since the decline following his surgery 2 weeks ago and nearly 5 pounds since the end of January.
This is the first time since Addison was nine months old his immune system has been strong enough to get vaccinations. We are extremely concerned about giving him shots, particularly the MMR. We would appreciate prayers that he does not develop lasting side effects from the vaccine. Children with DS are at an increased risk for autism as are children who have had infantile spasms. So he gets the double whammy. We have prayed about it and discussed it for so long which risk was more concerning... developing one of these diseases or the risk of developing autism from the vaccine. I can't even stand the topic anymore. And so we arrived at the only peace we can to trust the Lord for Addison's safety.
Wednesday Addison needed a ton of blood work. His ears may be getting bigger and stronger but not so much with his veins. The phlebotomist who has been the one to get his veins in the past was only able to get one and it collapsed before they got even half of what was needed. We prioritized the tests and hope to be able to get the remaining done when we are at Children's Hospital next week. Praying for good reports and no more surprises on these labs.
As always we are so thankful for your prayers. We beseech you to keep on praying as we continue to focus on mastering eating and regaining the skills lost to seizures and prednisone. While he is making progress, Addison is hardly able to coast. He is so far behind, his skills being at about that of a nine month old. We know he has so very far to go and it will continue to be a tiring journey with many set backs. But today we are rejoicing in the victories we have seen this last week.
And that is all she wrote.